A New Year, Same You – Forgiveness & Compassion

I love the dawning of a new year. Not only do I get to celebrate with those I love the most, but it feels like I get a “reset” on my life.

I get a whole new year full of potential and possibilities. What will this one bring?

It also gives me a chance to reflect on the past year. Things I did well. Things I did not do very well at all.

This time of reflection gives me a chance to give myself a pat on the back for all the things I worked hard on and to forgive myself for everything that didn’t turn out as well as I had liked.

Sometimes, while making our plans for the upcoming year, we skip this step. We don’t acknowledge how hard we’ve worked over the past 365 days. We don’t acknowledge that not everything is in our control. We don’t forgive ourselves for not hitting perfection.

Did you fail to stick to your budget last year? Did you start saving, but not hit your goal? Did you start contributing to your 401(k) and are finally receiving the company match?

Whatever you did do – you deserve praise for it. And whatever you didn’t do – you deserve forgiveness and the comfort from knowing everything will be okay. This allows you to start the new year from a place of empathy and compassion.

You can better prepare because you know how difficult some things can be for you. And it can help give you hope because you remember how well you did at other things.

This is the place we want to start our new year from.

Habit to try*:

For the new year, go through the things you didn’t do as well on.
Think through each one and forgive yourself for it.
Go through each thing you did well and congratulate yourself on a job well done.

Each day (or whenever you remember), do the same. Reflect on the past day and give yourself forgiveness, then congratulations.
Just as every new year can be a reflection, so can every new day – if you want it to be.

*Remember – we are all unique. If anything here sounds helpful to you – or sparks an idea that would be helpful for you – take it and try it out. If it doesn’t, that’s just fine. Hopefully there will be more here in the articles to come that you’ll find useful.

Find something small you can do, and try it out. That’s all you need to start making big changes.

Good luck! And feel free to share below what you’ve found inspiring/helpful/beneficial as you transition into your new year.